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A Better Way to Think -- Using Positive Thoughts to Change Your Life
by H. Norman Wright 2011.
Revell: Grand Rapids, MI
) All rights reserved [240 pages].
[Answer 18 of 25 questions correctly to receive
7 hours of continuing education credit.]

Chapter 1 My Mind is Filled with Thoughts (p. 9-23)
1. In what order do behaviors get started?
a. First emotions, then thoughts, then attitude, then behavior.
b. First emotions, then attitude, then thoughts, then behavior.
c. First thoughts, then emotions, then attitude, then behavior.
d. First thoughts, then attitude, then emotions, then behavior.

2. Which of the following are TRUE?
a. Humor helps our brain function in a healthy way, helps us be more creative and flexible, and strengthens our immune system.
b. When we dwell on old hurts and wounds, stress and its toxic effects surface with increasing speed, and we are more likely to express ourselves in a negative way.
c. It is never wise to react to the first emotion we feel.
d. All of the above.

3. How does the author suggest each of us can become calm, disciplined, and self-controlled, with a well-balanced mind?
a. By maintaining a daily regimen of physical fitness.
b. By memorizing and dwelling upon Scripture.
c. By getting eight hours of sleep each night.
d. By keeping our nutrition balanced and consistent.

Chapter 2 -- Where Do Thoughts Come From? (p. 25-40)
4. Although scientists are not sure why we get intrusive thoughts, we do have the freedom to choose which thoughts we dwell upon. What practical way did the author suggest we can begin doing this?
a. Keep busy to avoid mental distractions.
b. Label our recurring negative thoughts so we can identify them.
c. Say your negative thoughts out loud so you can challenge them.
d. (b) and (c)

Chapter 3 -- The Gift of Imagination (p. 43-53)
5. This chapter is about
a. how all fantasizing is destructive.
b. why we need to take a break from the real world.
c. how to dream during waking hours.
d. using your imagination to form positive, biblical, mental images of who you are.

Chapter 4 -- Core Beliefs: The Source of Your Thoughts (p. 55-76)
6. Our families instilled in us a pattern of thoughts, some positive and some negative. Even parents who mean well can be too critical. Research indicates that as much as 75% of everything we think is negative, counterproductive, and works against us. In challenging these core beliefs, the author suggests that for one week, we ask ourselves three questions: (1) "What do I believe about myself? (2) What do I believe about other people? and (3) What do I believe about God?" and then complete the statement: "This belief came from..."
After identifying negative core beliefs, what does the author say we should do NEXT?
a. Repeat to yourself over and over again that these beliefs are not true.
b. Find evidence to the contrary, however small, that shows how the opposite belief could be true.
c. Since our true worth to God is not reflected in negative core beliefs, pray that God will take away these negative beliefs.
d. Say these negative beliefs out loud to show how absurd they are.

7. If a person identifies a negative core belief of "I can't do anything right," and they then find examples of things they do well, they can change their core belief to
a. "There are a lot of things I do well."
b. "Even though I make mistakes, I learn from them to do better next time."
c. "I have these specific skills (name them), which have been useful to others."
d. All of the above.

Chapter 5 -- Self-Talk: Taking More Control (p. 77-93)
8. Ruminating, going over a negative thought or belief again and again, can cripple us from taking positive steps. One study showed that those who ruminate about their problems are four times more likely to develop major depression than those don't. Of the following, which would NOT be a negative thought for a married person to ruminate on?
a. God gave me my spouse to make me happy.
b. I can learn many things from my spouse.
c. My spouse should know what my needs are after all these years of marriage.
d. I wish my spouse would compromise more.

9. The best way to respond to your mind when it wanders is
a. accept it as a normal process and be aware of when it happens.
b. try to stop it from wandering.
c. consult a physician to see if you have ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder).
d. pray and ask God to take away this problem.

10. Which is TRUE about our memories?
a. Memories are made up of bits and pieces from what we remember of the past, including feelings, images, and perspectives, and they are not entirely based upon facts.
b. It doesn't matter who your parents were. It matters who you remember they were.
c. Engaging in new, accurate self-talk can blunt the intensity of painful memories.
d. All of the above.

Chapter 6 -- Igniting Change: What's Holding You Back? (p. 97-118)
11. Which of the following is NOT an example the author gave of how you might be sabotaging yourself with negative thinking?
a. Regretting the past or worrying about the future.
b. Setting unrealistic expectations for yourself.
c. Self-criticism or discounting yourself.
d. Avoiding risks.
e. Associating with negative or critical people.
f. Comparing yourself to others.
g. None of the above.

12. When a husband changes his thinking from "I don't understand my wife" to "I'm going to learn how to improve my listening skills," he is practicing

a. reframing.
b. pragmatism.
c. compromise.
d. de-ecalation.

Chapter 7-- Knocking Out Toxic Self-Talk...for Good! (p. 119-133)
13. Suppose you are trying to change your own negative thoughts about your job. Your negative thought is: "I don't like working here any more because I've been passed over for promotion three times. This is awful." What would be an example of a thought that properly challenges this negative thinking?
a. "Each time I was passed over for promotion, in my opinion, I was more qualified than the other promoted workers."
b. "My company's management does a poor job of rewarding performance."
c. "I'll see if I can find out the reasons why I was passed over and then make any necessary corrections or improvements."
d. "Companies today are just not loyal to their workers like they used to be."

14. One of these statements challenges the other three, which are false assumptions. Which one challenges the others?
a. It is more Christian to please other people than to please myself.
b. Pleasing others is an insurance policy that guarantees people will be nice to me in return.
c. It is wrong and un-Christian to think my own needs are important, when compared to others.
d. It is a misbelief that I must please other people and be approved by them.

15. One of the best ways to get rid of negative thinking is to
a. write down each negative thought and then challenge its truth or accuracy.
b. write down and then verbalize positive thoughts out loud, that will take the place of negative thoughts.
c. do (a) and (b) every day for at least 21 days until a new habit of thinking positively is established.
d. All of the above.

Chapter 8 -- Disarming Toxic Weapons in Your Marriage (p. 137-154)
16. What is the result of labeling our spouse with negative titles such as callous, selfish, controlling, insensitive, manipulative, unbending, crazy, and so on?
a. It creates a one-sided depiction of our spouse, excluding their positive qualities.
b. It doesn't result in forgiveness of our spouse.
c. It keeps us from looking at our part in the problem.
d. All of the above.

17. To get help in dealing with our "emotional ghosts', or toxic statements we grew up with, the author recommended reading two of his many books: "Making Peace with Your Past" and
a. "Strong to the Core"
b. "Healing Grace for Broken Relationships"
c. "Healing for the Father Wound"
d. "Healing Grace for Hurting People"

18. After eight years of marriage, Jim saw Janice as "controlling, critical, and overbearing," and Janice saw Jim as "lazy, irresponsible, and passive." What does the author suggest is the reason why their marriage declined?
a. Jim's business failed to grow and therefore put pressure on his ability to provide a living.
b. Janice should work harder to compromise with Jim instead of being so assertive.
c. They each adopted and maintained negative self-talk about the other.
d. They stopped doing enjoyable activities together.

Chapter 9 -- Dousing "Hot" Thoughts (p. 155-172)
19. "My husband will never change" is an example of
a. personalizing.
b. overgeneralization.
c. criticism.
d. magnifying.

20. "My spouse isn't paying me much attention. Her love for me is fading" is an example of
a. jumping to conclusions.
b. minimizing.
c. taking events out of context.
d. comparing.

21. "I know my wife doesn't respect me. She thinks I'm a loser" is an example of
a. mind-reading.
b. self-blame.
c. suspicion or lack of trust.
d. character assassination.

Chapter 10 -- Emotions and Your Thoughts (p. 173-189)
22. The three main underlying causes of anger are
a. aggravation, impatience, and provocation.
b. fear, hurt, and frustration.
c. bitterness, intolerance, and perfectionism.
d. thoughtlessness of others, moodiness, and sleep-deprivation.

23. What helps to reduce your anger?
a. Preventative self-talk such as, "No matter what my spouse says, I will remain calm and not lose control. God will give me grace."
b. Debriefing yourself, such as saying, "I'm going to remember, 'Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.'" (Proverbs 19:11)
c. Forgive the person who has wronged you.
d. All of the above.

Chapter 11 -- Your Thoughts, Worry, and Depression (p. 193-212)
24. What is a practical way to stop a habit of worry?
a. Turn your worry into an action plan. For example, when you develop an unexplainable pain in your lower back, make an opportunity to see your doctor.
b. Carry a card with the word STOP on one side and Philippians 4:6-9 on the other. When you begin to worry, say STOP! out loud twice, then read the Scripture passage out loud.
c. Tell yourself to relax.
d. (a) and (c)

25. What is TRUE concerning our thoughts and depression?
a. Part of the reason why the prophet Jeremiah was depressed was because his thoughts were depressing: He believed God had caused his despondency, he didn't see any hope, and he saw everyone as out to do him harm. But sometimes he would remember the Lord's compassion and faithfulness.
b. Negative thinking can lead a person into depression. We are more vulnerable to depression when we ruminate. We should not spend too much time thinking about something.
c. When you are depressed, you have a chemical imbalance in your brain. Thoughts trigger emotions, which dump an overload of stress chemicals into the brain. There is a chemical consequence in the brain for every thought we think.
d. You can make a thought dominant by saying it over and over again. We can choose thoughts that will bring us out of depression.
e. All of the above.