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Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way
(former title: The Other Side of Love -- Handling Anger in a Godly Way)

by Dr. Gary Chapman
© 2007.
(Northfield Publishing -- Moody Publishing: Chicago. IL) All rights reserved.

[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive
9 hours of Continuing Education Credit]

 

Chapter 1: Why Do People Get Angry? (p. 15-23)
1. Anger comes from
a. our parents.
b. a lack of self-control.
c. immaturity.
d. our perceptions of right and wrong.

Chapter 2: What Is the Purpose of Anger? (p. 25-32)
2. The purpose of anger is to
a. declare our God-given dignity.
b. enforce our personal liberties.
c. motivate us to take constructive action.
d. teach or strengthen social proprieties.

Chapter 3: How Can I Make Anger Productive? (p. 33-50)

A MODEL FOR MAKING YOUR ANGER PRODUCTIVE

1. Consciously acknowledge to yourself that you are angry.
2. Restrain your immediate response.
3. Locate the focus of your anger.
4. Analyze your options.
5. Take constructive action.
 

3. A Christian decides to not confront his elderly parents with the hurts they caused him. Instead, he releases his anger to God and releases his parents to God’s care. This is an example of
a. righteousness.
b. reconciliation.
c. forbearance.
d. justice.

Chapter 4. When Anger is Distorted (p. 51-62)

4. Which of the following is an example of definitive anger?
a. You’re angry at a friend for not writing you a thank you note for a birthday present you sent.
b. You’re angry at your spouse for lying to you.
c. You’re angry at your spouse for not taking out the garbage.
d. You’re angry at a friend for not returning your phone call.

5. If a wife is a perfectionist and she is angry that her husband does not maintain the same standards of neatness and organization, then her anger
a. is definitive.
b. is justified.
c. is focused.
d. is distorted.

Chapter 5: Processing Distorted Anger (p. 63-71)
6. Meredith comes home and finds her husband watching television while the dirty dinner dishes are still unwashed. What should she do next?
a. Give him a hug, then ask him about the dishes.
b. Wash the dishes herself and say nothing.
c. Conclude that he is a lazy slob who expects her to do all the work.
d. Get upset with him and tell him why.

Chapter 6: Destructive Responses to Anger (p. 75-87)
7. If a husband has an explosive temper and he actually hits his wife for the first time during an argument, what should she do?
a. Warn him that if he ever does that again she will leave and not return until the husband’s counselor says it is safe to do so.
b. Hit him back in self-defense.
c. Believe his promises that he will never do it again.
d. Encourage him to vent his angry feelings by hitting a pillow or punching a heavy bag.

8. Ephesians 4:26-27 says, “In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” Which best summarizes what this Scripture passage teaches?
a. Christians should not get angry.
b. Implosive anger is worse than explosive anger.
c. Anger should be dealt with quickly and not allowed to fester.
d. Brooding over one’s anger, though it can lead to bitterness, still can have a positive outcome.

Chapter 7: Processing Long-Term Anger (p. 89-101)
9. Dr. Chapman helped Mike process his stored-up, long-term anger by
a. naming each person who had wronged him and what they had done, then releasing each one to God.
b. going to each person who had wronged him in order to reconcile with them.
c. venting his anger by writing in a journal.
d. viewing his long-term anger as an appropriate response for not being treated with dignity and respect.

Chapter 8: Anger and Forgiveness (p. 103-116)

10. Which is TRUE about forgiveness?
a. True forgiveness removes all the results of sin.
b. God forgives an unrepentant sinner.
c. If a person offends us and refuses to apologize, we should forgive that person anyway.
d. If a person offends us and refuses to apologize, we can prevent bitterness in us by releasing that person to God who will do what is just and right toward that person.

Chapter 9: Anger in Marriage (p. 117-125)

SIX STRATEGIES FOR HANDLING ANGER IN MARRIAGE

                  1. Acknowledge the reality of anger.
                  2. Agree to acknowledge your anger to each other.
                  3. Agree that verbal or physical explosions that attack
                      the other person are not appropriate responses to anger.
                  4. Agree to seek en explanation before passing judgment.
                  5. Agree to seek a resolution.
                  6. Agree to affirm your leave for each other.
 

11. Suppose a married couple agrees that their verbal explosions toward one another are wrong and should not be tolerated. What should one spouse do when the other breaks this agreement during their next argument?
a. When one spouse explodes, the other should walk out of the room.
b. If the exploding spouse follows the other spouse around the house, then the other spouse should walk out of the house.
c. If the exploding spouse follows the other spouse outside, the other spouse can go to a neighbor’s house.
d. all of the above.

Chapter 10: Teaching Children to Handle Anger (p. 127-141)
12. When parents are trying to help their angry child, the first thing they should consider is
a. telling the child not to speak to them in a disrespectful way.
b. making sure they are meeting their child’s need for emotional love.
c. establish the boundary that children cannot yell at their parents though parents can sometimes yell at each other.
d. telling the child that it is impossible for the parents to listen to an angry child.

The author recommends this book:
Kids in Danger:
Training Your Child to Tame the Destructive Power of Anger
by Dr. Ross Campbell
 

Chapter 11: When You Are Angry with God (p. 143-153)
13. Which best represents the biblical teaching about our anger toward God?
a. Since God does not sin, our anger toward Him is inappropriate when we hold Him responsible for not preventing evil and suffering.
b. Suffering is often God’s punishment for our wrong choices, so we should be angry with ourselves, not God.
c. After bringing our anger to God, He will remind us of how caring and trustworthy He is in the midst of our unexplained suffering.
d. The closer we are to God, the more likely we will understand the reason for our suffering.

Chapter 12: When You Are Angry at Yourself (p. 155-166)
14. Essentially, to forgive yourself means to no longer
a. remember your mistakes.
b. feel the pain of a sin you committed.
c. punish yourself for a sin you committed.
d. experience the results of your sin.

Chapter 13: When You Encounter an Angry Person (p. 167-180)

HOW TO RESPOND TO AN ANGRY PERSON

            1. Listen to their story.
            2. Listen: Ask them to tell their story again.
            3. Listen: Ask questions that clarify their story.
            4. Try to understand the angry person’s situation.
            5. Express to the person your understanding of their situation.
            6. Share additional information that may shed light on the subject.
            7. Confess any wrongdoing and perform restitution.
 

 

HOW NOT TO RESPOND TO AN ANGRY PERSON

           1. After listening once, jump into the conversation and set the person straight on
               all the facts.
           2. Tell the person to stop being angry.
           3. Escalate the situation out of control by being angry back.
 

15. When Marsha confronted her co-worker in anger, what is the best thing that Suzanne did to calm Marsha down?
a. She asked Marsha to please calm down.
b. She helped Marsha see that it was really the supervisor’s fault, not Suzanne’s fault.
c. She told Marsha she could understand why she was so angry.
d. She told Marsha what really had happened.