Chapter One: Betrayal (p. 17-21)
1. Which change(s) in behavior did Nancy exhibit as an indication that she might be having an affair?
a. working longer hours
b. wearing a different style of clothes
c. comparing her husband to other men
d. all of the above
Chapter Two: Confession (p. 22-30)
2. When Nancy told her parents she was going to file divorce papers, her father said
a. that he understood how she felt and they would offer whatever support she needed.
b. that sometimes these things just happen and there is little you can do about them.
c. “No, you’re not!” Then he told her she was responsible for at least half of the problems in her marriage.
d. that it was too bad her husband was such a jerk and was unwilling to change.
Chapter Three -- Restoration (p. 31-39)
3. Nancy ended her affair with Jake by
a. meeting him one last time and telling him face-to-face.
b. calling him on the phone and telling him it was over while her husband was listening.
c. filing a restraining order against Jake with the police department.
d. writing him a final love letter telling him all the wonderful memories
she would cherish.
4. By forgiving Nancy, Ron was essentially saying to her that
a. she deserved to be pardoned for her adultery because he almost did the same thing to her.
b. he was never going to use her adultery as a weapon against her.
c. he would never need to talk about her betrayal again.
d. he knew she really didn’t mean to betray him.
Chapter Four : Hedges? (p. 43-52)
Hearing: listening and
speaking with patience and understanding.
Encouraging: helping each
Dating: keeping it fresh and
on your boundaries and enforcing them.
Educating: becoming an expert
on your mate.
Satisfying: meeting each
The author compares marriage to the
Biblical image of a vineyard
(Mark 12:1) that needs to be protected by
hedges. Hedges are
behaviors which prevent infidelity by
keeping the marriage spiritually
strong and intellectually interesting.
5. Most failed marriages are ruined by
b. alcoholism and abuse.
c. financial mismanagement.
d. neglect and criticism.
6. How did the author reduce her criticism of her husband?
a. She was inspired by Scripture to be a wise woman who builds up her
house instead of a
foolish woman who pulls it down (Proverbs 14:1)
b. She asked God to help her put a guard over her mouth so she would
choose her words
c. She use Philippians 4:8 as a guide for what she should say.
d. all of the above.
Chapter Five: Hearing (p. 53-64)
7. A wife wanted her husband to start helping clean up the kitchen
after dinner. This way they could get the children to bed at a decent hour
and still have time for each other. She told him how important this was her
(a “ten” on a scale from one to ten) and asked him if he could begin helping tonight. This type of communication is
a. honest and effective.
b. nagging and critical.
c. loaded with too much detail.
d. lacking humor.
Chapter Six: Encouraging (p. 65-73)
8. If a husband thinks his wife wants to have sex every time she touches him, the wife should
a. touch him more, especially in public places.
b. go ahead and have sex.
c. touch him less.
d. tell him to stop thinking so much about sex.
Chapter Seven: Dating (p. 74-85)
9. If your marriage has become apathetic, how should you and your spouse
restore lost feelings for one another?
a. Spending some time apart should help you miss one another.
b. Start by behaving in simple, loving ways toward each other (courtesies
Over time, you will like each other more.
c. Try to resolve the big problems first. This gives you confidence that
your marriage will
d. Like most couples, you probably won’t be able to restore lost
feelings. So just realistically
accept this and be content with a platonic friendship.
10. Kate’s husband exhibited which of the following signs that he might
be having an affair?
a. He began working longer hours.
b. He made love to his wife without an emotional connection.
c. He dyed his hair.
d. all of the above.
Chapter Eight: Guarding (p. 86-97)
11. At what point did the author say that her relationship with a
co-worker (Jake) crossed the line from innocent to dangerous?
a. when they laughed at the same jokes.
b. when they noticed they liked the same kind of music.
c. when they sat together in the lunchroom.
d. when his leg made contact with her leg and she didn’t pull away.
12. The author approves of all the following
EXCEPT FOR _____.
a. not riding alone in a car with the opposite sex.
b. talking about your spouse only in a positive way.
c. hugging a business associate of the opposite sex.
d. not making any lingering eye contact.
13. What solution does the author recommend if Internet pornography is
a. Keep the computer, but discontinue Internet access.
b. Just pray over Scripture, such as Matthew 5:29, “If your eye causes
you to sin, pluck it
c. Get rid of the computer.
d. Adjust the allowable content using a supervisor password kept by your
Chapter Nine: Educating (p. 98-108)
14. A husband and wife can ease their marital difficulties by studying
subjects: (1) the differences between men and women, (2) their
personalities, (3) their different family backgrounds, and
(4) their own
individual differences. As a helpful resource, the author recommended all of
the following books EXCEPT
a. Men Are Like Waffles and Women Are Like Spaghetti
by Bill and
b. Personality Plus for Couples: Understanding Yourself and the One
Love by Florence
c. Dated Jekyll, Married Hyde: Or, Whatever Happened to Prince
by Laura Jensen
d. Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He
Desperately Needs by
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Chapter Ten: Satisfying (p. 109-118)
15. Most men have affairs because of unmet physical, sexual needs; most women have affairs because of unsatisfied emotional needs for affection and
tenderness. Scientific research confirms that men’s need for sexual release
is based upon hormonal needs (testosterone) and that men naturally want
sexual release ________. The author said on the days she and her husband
make love, he is more mellow and encouraging about things that normally
bother him. The longer he goes without release, the more grumpy he becomes.
a. every day.
b. every 3 days.
c. once each week.
d. twice each month.