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Counseling Single Adults by Douglas L. Fagerstrom, editor 1996.
(Baker Books: Grand Rapids, MI). All rights reserved.

[Answer 18 of 25 questions correctly and you will receive
13 hours of Continuing Education Credit].

 

The Need for Counseling in the Church (p 19-28)
1. In order for the gospel to heal, the author argues for a church climate of
a. openness to excellence.
b. openness to conformity.
c. openness to people’s needs.
d. openness to obedience.
 
Counseling Single Adults: An Overview (p 29-44)

2. On the subject of society’s lack of understanding the single life, the author recommends the following book:
a. Life is Good-Bye, Life is Hello by Alla Bozarth-Campbell.
b. Living Through Personal Crisis by Ann Kaiser Stearn.
c. Your Perfect Right: A Guide to Assertive Living by Robert E. Alberti.
d. Confronting the Idolatry of the Family by Janet Fishburn.
 
Developing
Meaningful Support Groups (p 45-56)
3. A support group should have no less than ____ people.
a. 3
b. 4
c. 5
d. 6
 
Know Your Limits: Referring to God and Others (p 57-66)

4. Christian counselors should refer a client
a. only to counselors with a Ph.D.
b. only to other Christian counselors.
c. when they don’t feel comfortable with the type of problem.
d. only to counselors with the best credentials.
 
Low Self-Esteem and Self-Worth: Am I Valuable? (p 69-85)

5. Counselors are cautioned against
a. praying with their clients.
b. asking direct questions.
c. giving homework.
d. expecting a quick recovery.
 
Depression and Anger: Down and Dangerous (p 97-112)

6. The major coping style of most depressed people is
a. over-eating.
b. keeping busy.
c. spending money.
d. isolation.

7. Which is TRUE about regular exercise?
a. It decreases endorphins.
b. It improves the quality of one’s sleep.
c. It decreases anger.
d. It increases appetite.
 
Guilt and Rejection: I Blew It; Now Nobody Wants Me (p 113-120)

8. "Unearned guilt" occurs when the client
a. accepts responsibility for someone else’s wrongdoing.
b. accepts personal responsibility for wrongdoing.
c. denies personal responsibility for wrongdoing.
d. blames others.
 
Stress and Anxiety: Burned out and Worried Sick (p 121-131)

9. People suffering from "burnout" should be encouraged to
a. set long-term goals.
b. set short-term goals.
c. become less goal-oriented.
d. decrease their goals.
 
Death and Dying: The Loss is Too Great to Bear (p 133-143)

10. Grieving people are comforted when friends
a. communicate empathy ("I know how you feel.")
b. offer spiritual advice ("Your loved one is with God right now.")
c. offer to meet needs without waiting to be asked.
d. distract them from talking about their loss.
 
The Dysfunctional Family Background (p 147-158)

11. The purpose of identifying a person’s dysfunctional family background is
a. to promote rapid changes in behavior.
b. to understand the person’s current behavior.
c. to assign blame to harsh and abusive parents.
d. none of the above.
 
Abused and Feeling Used (p 159-170)

12. With survivors of sexual abuse, counselors should
a. sometimes challenge the survivor’s recollection of the facts.
b. carefully suggest to the survivors how they should feel.
c. help the survivors feel better about their original families.
d. believe the stories the survivors tell.
 
Divorce (p 171-185)

13. After a divorce,
a. fantasizing about the ex-partner’s death is rare.
b. those who wanted the divorce seek counseling.
c. people tend to enter into another relationship too soon.
d. recovery usually takes an average of one year.
 
Dealing with the Ex-Spouse (p 187-196)

14. Counselees can be helped in dealing with ex-spouses by
a. living up to their responsibilities in the divorce decree.
b. not using the children as messengers.
c. recalling the positive memories of their marriage.
d. all of the above.
 
Recovery from Abortion (p 197-207)

15. Helping a woman to let go of her aborted child does NOT include
a. having a public funeral ceremony.
b. writing a letter of farewell to her child.
c. naming the child.
d. accepting her intuition about the child’s gender.
 
Workaholism (p 211-220)

16. Counselors can help workaholics by
a. scheduling flexible counseling appointments during off hours.
b. identifying the lack of affection/affirmation in their backgrounds.
c. accepting counseling phone calls at home.
d. arranging the workaholic’s schedule.  

Perfectionism (p 221-230)
17. Which is NOT a characteristic of perfectionists?
a. demanding
b. busy
c. fault-finding
d. fun
 
Alcoholism and Chemical Dependency (p 231-241)
18. A statement that indicates a person could be ready to change a drinking habit is:
a. "My girlfriend wants me to quit."
b. "It’s bad for my health."
c. "I can’t change on my own. I need help."
d. "Yeah, I need help, but..."
 
Sexual Struggles (p 243-259)
19. The author suggests that God’s main purpose for sexual abstinence before marriage is
a. to avoid sexually transmitted diseases.
b. to avoid sexual problems in marriage.
c. to avoid comparison with previous sex partners.
d. to build and protect a sense of personal worth and value.
 
Uncontrolled Finances (p 261-290)
20. A person’s monthly mortgage payment should be no more than ___ percent of their net spendable income (after tithes and taxes).
a. 25
b. 30
c. 35
d. 40
 
Career Counseling (p 293-302)
21. Seven out of ten job hunters find jobs through
a. newspaper want ads.
b. networking with friends and colleagues.
c. employment agencies.
d. the Internet.
 
Premarital Counseling (p 303-314)
22. A good candidate for long-term commitment would be
a. a man who has mostly female friends.
b. a woman who has mostly male friends.
c. a man or woman who has many same-gender friends.
d. none of the above.
 
Remarriage Counseling (p 315-327)
23. The number one problem in Christian remarriages is
a. a marginal commitment to the Lord.
b. anger and bitterness toward an ex-spouse.
c. lack of trust.
d. unrealistic attitudes about managing a blended family.
 
Crisis Counseling (p 329-345)
24. The author believes that forgiveness
a. requires a "feeling" of forgiveness.
b. hasn’t taken place if you can’t forget the offense.
c. automatically restores trust.
d. is giving up your right to get even.
 
Defining the role of Spiritual Director (p 347-358)
25. A good choice for a spiritual director would be
a. your father.
b. your best friend.
c. your favorite Christian author of devotional books.
d. an older church member with a godly reputation.