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Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse
by Gregory L. Jantz, Ph.D. © 2003
(Fleming H. Revell -- Baker Book House: Grand Rapids, MI) [221 pages]
[Answer 11 of 15 questions correctly to receive 9 hours of Continuing Education credit.]

 

Chapter 1: What is Emotional Abuse? (p. 9-17)
1. Which is NOT true about emotional abuse?
a. It includes minimizing the other person’s point of view.
b. It includes using a hostile or sarcastic tone of voice with the other person.
c. If you grew up being emotionally abused it probably seemed “normal” to be treated that way.
d. Most people who emotionally abuse others don’t mean to do so.

Chapter 2: Why is Emotional Abuse So Common? (p. 18-29)

2. The cultural acceptance of ________ in relationships allows for emotional abuse to take root.
a. discrimination
b. dominance
c. disrespect
d. authority

Chapter 3: Why is Emotional Abuse So Damaging? (p. 30-47)

3. After becoming an adult, someone who was emotionally battered as a child often
a. takes revenge on the abuser.
b. chooses an abusive love relationship.
c. becomes more assertive and successful.
d. develops a high degree of tolerance.

Chapter 4: Emotional Abuse through Words (p. 51-69)

NINE FORMS OF VERBAL ABUSE
1. The Overbearing Opinion
2. The Person Who Is Always Right
3. The Judge and Jury
4. The Put-Down Artist
5. The Stand-Up Comic
6. The Great Guilt-Giver
7. The Preacher
8. The Historian
9. The Silent Treatment

4. The “Put Down Artist” is fueled by
a. depression.
b. guilt.
c. self-concept.
d. past abuse.

Chapter 5: Emotional Abuse through Actions (p. 70-90)

NINE FORMS OF BEHAVIORAL ABUSE
1. The Commander-in-Chief
2. The Ventaholic
3. The Intimidator
4. The Roller Coaster
5. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
6. The Illusionist
7. The Person Who Plays Favorites
8. The Role Reverser
9. The Wrath-of-God Abuser
 

5. The real purpose for emotionally abusive behavior is
a. to promote order.
b. to inspire unity and agreement.
c. to instill obedience.
d. to control others.

6. Mood-swings are characteristics of
a. the Commander in Chief.
b. the Ventaholic.
c. the Roller Coaster.
d. the Intimidator.

Chapter 6: Emotional Abuse Through Neglect (p. 91-101)

7. The author believes there is a connection between _____ and disordered eating, head banging, biting, scratching, or cutting.
a. childhood emotional neglect
b. sexual abuse
c. parental leniency
d. poor school performance

8. A daughter who had an absent father (M.I.A. parent) will make herself feel responsible for him being away in an attempt to control the situation. If she thinks he left because of something she did, there is always the chance he might come back if she changed. To rid herself of this false guilt, she will need to accept the fact that
a. even if she was the reason he left, he should have stayed anyway.
b. he probably left more for marital reasons than anything else.
c. some people just don’t have the capability of being a parent.
d. he might never come back, no matter what she does.

Chapter 7: The Effects on Sense of Self (p. 106-118)

THE EFFECTS ON SENSE OF SELF 
 
1. Low self-esteem
 2. Lack of self-confidence
 3. Transfer of needs
 4. Acting out sexually
 5. Loneliness
 6. Failure syndrome
 7. Perfectionism
 8. Unrealistic guilt
 9. Crisis oriented
 10. Unresolved anger and resentments 
 

9. The ability to provoke a sexual response in another person is a form of
a. love.
b. control.
c. transferring needs.
d. confidence.

Chapter 8: The Physical Effects (p. 119-135)

THE PHYSICAL EFFECTS
1. Addictions
2. Allergies/asthma
3. Depression
4. Anxiety
5. Digestive disturbances
6. Eating disorders
7. Hypochondria
8. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
9. Migraine headaches
10. Panic attacks
11. Phobias
12. Unexplained skin rashes
13. Unexplained physical pain
 

10. The author has observed a pattern of asthma being triggered by the stress of
a. workaholism.
b. adultery.
c. perfectionism.
d. eating disorders.

11. Dr. Jantz says “Rarely have I found elsewhere the intensity of ____ that I find in anorexics.”
a. guilt
b. fear
c. anger
d. shame

Chapter 9: The Effects on Relationships (p. 136-154)

THE EFFECTS ON RELATIONSHIPS
1. Lack of intimate relationships
2. Codependency
3. Inappropriate relationships
4. Isolation from others
5. Excessive compliance or passivity
 

12. If you find yourself in a hostile work environment with an abusive person, and cannot take legal action, the author recommends that you
a. consider looking for another job.
b. develop a “thick skin” impervious to criticism.
c. issue a complaint to the abuser’s supervisor.
d. request a raise.

13. A husband who spends too much time on the Internet is an example of
a. passivity.
b. codependency.
c. isolation from others.
d. a leisure activity.

Chapter 10: Recognizing Your Abuse and Its Effects (p. 157-174)

14. To change one’s view of God as a stern unforgiving super parent, the author recommends
a. forgiving your parents for their mistakes.
b. exercising more self-control over your emotions.
c. talking with a professional counselor.
d. reading the Bible and associating with forgiving Christians.

Chapter 12: A Time to Heal -- Restoring Your Self (p. 202-209)

15. In order to avoid an emotionally abusive relationship in the future, you must
a. become confrontational when sinned against.
b. immediately replace unhealthy friendships with good friends.
c. focus less on others and more on yourself.
d. always remember your worth in God.