Chapter 1: What is Emotional Abuse? (p. 9-17)
1. Which is NOT true about emotional abuse?
a. It includes minimizing the other person’s point of view.
b. It includes using a hostile or sarcastic tone of voice with the other
c. If you grew up being emotionally abused it probably seemed “normal”
to be treated that way.
d. Most people who emotionally abuse others don’t mean to do so.
Chapter 2: Why is Emotional Abuse So Common? (p. 18-29)
2. The cultural acceptance of ________ in relationships allows for
emotional abuse to take root.
Chapter 3: Why is Emotional Abuse So Damaging? (p. 30-47)
3. After becoming an adult, someone who was emotionally battered as a
a. takes revenge on the abuser.
b. chooses an abusive love relationship.
c. becomes more assertive and successful.
d. develops a high degree of tolerance.
Chapter 4: Emotional Abuse through Words (p. 51-69)
NINE FORMS OF VERBAL ABUSE
1. The Overbearing Opinion
2. The Person Who Is Always Right
3. The Judge and Jury
4. The Put-Down Artist
5. The Stand-Up Comic
6. The Great Guilt-Giver
7. The Preacher
8. The Historian
9. The Silent Treatment
4. The “Put Down Artist” is fueled by
d. past abuse.
Chapter 5: Emotional Abuse through Actions (p. 70-90)
NINE FORMS OF BEHAVIORAL ABUSE
1. The Commander-in-Chief
2. The Ventaholic
3. The Intimidator
4. The Roller Coaster
5. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
6. The Illusionist
7. The Person Who Plays Favorites
8. The Role Reverser
9. The Wrath-of-God Abuser
5. The real purpose for emotionally abusive behavior is
a. to promote order.
b. to inspire unity and agreement.
c. to instill obedience.
d. to control others.
6. Mood-swings are characteristics of
a. the Commander in Chief.
b. the Ventaholic.
c. the Roller Coaster.
d. the Intimidator.
Chapter 6: Emotional Abuse Through Neglect (p. 91-101)
7. The author believes there is a connection between _____ and
disordered eating, head banging, biting, scratching, or cutting.
a. childhood emotional neglect
b. sexual abuse
c. parental leniency
d. poor school performance
8. A daughter who had an absent father (M.I.A. parent) will make herself
feel responsible for him being away in an attempt to control the
situation. If she thinks he left because of something she did, there is
always the chance he might come back if she changed. To rid herself of
this false guilt, she will need to accept the fact that
a. even if she was the reason he left, he should have stayed anyway.
b. he probably left more for marital reasons than anything else.
c. some people just don’t have the capability of being a parent.
d. he might never come back, no matter what she does.
Chapter 7: The Effects on Sense of Self (p. 106-118)
THE EFFECTS ON SENSE OF SELF
1. Low self-esteem
2. Lack of self-confidence
3. Transfer of needs
4. Acting out sexually
6. Failure syndrome
8. Unrealistic guilt
9. Crisis oriented
10. Unresolved anger and resentments
9. The ability to provoke a sexual response in another person is a
c. transferring needs.
Chapter 8: The Physical Effects (p. 119-135)
THE PHYSICAL EFFECTS
5. Digestive disturbances
6. Eating disorders
8. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
9. Migraine headaches
10. Panic attacks
12. Unexplained skin rashes
13. Unexplained physical pain
10. The author has observed a pattern of asthma being triggered by
the stress of
d. eating disorders.
11. Dr. Jantz says “Rarely have I found elsewhere the intensity of ____
that I find in anorexics.”
Chapter 9: The Effects on Relationships (p. 136-154)
THE EFFECTS ON RELATIONSHIPS
1. Lack of intimate relationships
3. Inappropriate relationships
4. Isolation from others
5. Excessive compliance or passivity
12. If you find yourself in a hostile work environment with an
abusive person, and cannot take legal action, the author recommends that
a. consider looking for another job.
b. develop a “thick skin” impervious to criticism.
c. issue a complaint to the abuser’s supervisor.
d. request a raise.
13. A husband who spends too much time on the Internet is an example of
c. isolation from others.
d. a leisure activity.
Chapter 10: Recognizing Your Abuse and Its Effects (p. 157-174)
14. To change one’s view of God as a stern unforgiving super parent, the
a. forgiving your parents for their mistakes.
b. exercising more self-control over your emotions.
c. talking with a professional counselor.
d. reading the Bible and associating with forgiving Christians.
Chapter 12: A Time to Heal -- Restoring Your Self (p. 202-209)
15. In order to avoid an emotionally abusive relationship in the future,
a. become confrontational when sinned against.
b. immediately replace unhealthy friendships with good friends.
c. focus less on others and more on yourself.
d. always remember your worth in God.