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His Brain, Her Brain -- How Divinely Designed Differences Can Strengthen Your Marriage
by Walt Larimore, M.D. and Barb Larimore © 2008
(Zondervan: Grand Rapids, MI). All rights reserved. [240 pages]
[Answer 18 of 25 questions correctly to receive 8 hours of Continuing Education credit]

 

Chapter 1: Different by Divine Design (p. 27-40)
1. When girls and women are under stress, their corpus callosums make them want to
a. spend money.
b. eat something.
c. talk to other girls or women.
d. read a good book.

2. When boys or men are under stress, their corpus callosums make them want to
a. take a nap.
b. eat something.
c. go talk to a friend.
d. do something physical or be alone.

Chapter 2: Different as Night and Day (p. 41-57)
3. Most men have a much stronger sex drive than women because
a. they have a larger hypothalamus.
b. they have more testosterone.
c. they have more vasopressin.
d. All of the above.

4. A wife would be MOST receptive to making love to her husband (i.e. because of elevated oxytocin levels)
a. after they have had an enjoyable conversation.
b. after they have had a nice dinner with their young children.
c. after paying all their outstanding bills.
d. after all the household chores are done.

Chapter 3: Differences in How We Perceive Our World (p. 61-68)
5. Which is NOT true of men?
a. They can see more colors than women.
b. They can identify oncoming traffic much quicker than women.
c. They can listen to their wives better if they mute the sound on the television.
d. They have a higher tolerance to pain (contrary to popular belief).

6. Which is NOT true of women?
a. They have better peripheral vision than their men.
b. They can listen to multiple conversations at one time.
c. They are more sensitive to touch than men are.
d. They cannot taste bitter and complex flavors as well as men can.

Chapter 4: Differences in How We Process Input from Our World (p. 69-86)
7. All of the following are TRUE about men EXCEPT
a. They are better at reading a two-dimensional map.
b. Under stress, they tend to think before they act.
c. They tend to focus on one thing at a time.
d. They are a poorer judge of character than women are.

8. The reason why most husbands withdraw when they are upset at their wives is because
a. men take much longer to process emotional stimuli, thoughts, and feelings.
b. men often think they never do enough to please their wives so they momentarily give up trying.
c. men are verbally inferior to women and therefore don’t experience much satisfaction in a conversation with them.
d. men are concerned about getting too angry at their wives, so they disengage before this happens.

SIGNS OF OVERLOAD
“When a husband and wife do talk, she would be wise to learn to respond to his overload signs…[when he] becomes physically fidgety, his eye contact drifts, he interrupts, he tries to problem solve, he tries to get out of the conversation, by zoning out or working on a project.” -- p. 79
 

Chapter 5: Differences in How We Communicate with Our World (p. 87-95)
9. Of the following, what is the best reason why men become quiet when dealing with a project, problem, stress, or emotion?
a. They cannot concentrate if there is a lot of background noise.
b. Men know if they say anything, it can be taken the wrong way, so they keep quiet in order to “stay out of trouble.”
c. Men are designed to do one thing at a time. So while they are using their right brains to solve problems or deal with emotions, it’s difficult to use their left brains to listen or speak.
d. Scientific studies actually show that men say far fewer words per day than women do, so this is why men appear to be much quieter.

Chapter 6: Decoding Our Differences (p. 97-107)
10. Women are biologically built to experience pleasure through talking things out. Conversations increase their hormone oxytocin, which makes them feel calm, close, and bonded to the listener. Researchers have found that couples have better marriages when wives make up for conversation deficits with their husbands by
a. going on special trips away with their husbands (without their children).
b. having a marriage counselor or mentor teach their husbands to empathize.
c. having close female friendships.
d. having their husbands paraphrase back to them what they just said.

11. What is the most effective way for a wife to ask her husband to take out the garbage?
a. Wouldn’t it be good if the garbage was taken out?
b. Do you think the garbage should be taken out?
c. Can you take out the garbage?
d. Take out the garbage now, please.

Chapter 7: Sex on the Brain (p. 111-126)
12. Why do wives initiate sex much less frequency than their husbands?
a. Women are chemically made by God to be less sexually aggressive than men. They have lower testosterone and a smaller hypothalamus than men.
b. Women don’t enjoy sex as much as men do.
c. Most wives are just too tired at the end of the day to have sex. They would rather just go to sleep.
d. A woman’s brain and hormones equip her for conversation, holding, and hugging, nurturing and bonding. Most husbands don’t do enough of these things, so wives have less interest in sex.

13. A wife slowly warms us sexually to her husband to the degree that he shows her affection, gives her attention, praises her, pampers her, and spends time with her. What should a husband do if he is not the affectionate type?
a. He and his wife should just accept this and live without his affection.
b. He should conclude that he is never going to be good at hugging, holding, and listening to his wife, but he can show his love in other ways, such as fixing things and providing a good income.
c. He should ask his wife what he can specifically do to meet her needs for affection such as hugging her daily, kissing her gently, calling her on the phone to see how she is doing, taking a walk with her, etc.
d. None of the above.

14. Which is NOT true?
a. Men are hard-wired to feel pleasure when they notice an attractive woman.
b. The longer a couple is married, the less sexually satisfied they are with one another.
c. Men are made by God to appreciate their wives both for their inner qualities and their outward appearance, not just for their inner qualities alone.
d. Wives have a great need for affection and romance. These symbolize security, protection, comfort, and approval.

Chapter 8: Sex by God’s Design (p. 127-137)
15. In many married couples, the husband wants to have sex more than his wife desires to have sex. Biblically, how should a wife respond when she is not desiring to have sex?
a. She should ask to have sex on another night.
b. She should obtain medication to increase her sex drive.
c. She should exercise more and get proper rest to elevate her sexual desire.
d. In a non-abusive marriage, the wife should adopt the view of the “servant lover”, thinking about what her husband desires and how to please him.

16. Biblically, how should a husband respond to his wife when he wants to have sex with her and she is reluctant to do so?
a. He should remind her of the biblical teaching that her body belongs to him.
b. He should practice the biblical teaching of “Honor one another above yourselves,” never pressuring his wife or demanding that his sexual needs be met.”
c. He should remind his wife that she should be submissive to him.
d. He should distance himself from his wife until she misses and desires him.

Chapter 9: His Brain -- Conquest; Her Brain -- Nurture (p. 139-156)
17. Which of the following is abnormal or unhealthy?
a. Boys (or fathers and sons) engaged in rough-and-tumble play.
b. Men who compare their self-worth with other men.
c. Men who long for affirmation and approval from God.
d. None of the above.

AFFIRMATION EVERY MAN LONGS TO HEAR
“When Jesus came up out of the Jordan River after having been baptized by John, His Father looked down and said, ‘This is My Son, whom I love; with Him I am well pleased’ (Matthew 3:17). Whoa -- those are the words every man wants to hear! That’s an affirmation from the Father of all fathers! It’s an affirmation for which all men are designed -- and it’s written on our hearts by our Creator.
This same Father declares to those with whom he has a personal relationship that we are His children…He thinks about you (Psalm 40:17), delights in you (Psalm 18:19), and rejoices over you and sings to you (Zephaniah 3:17); His angels rejoice over you (Luke 15:10), and you are the object of His affection (Deuteronomy 7:7 and Philippians 1:8). He loves you with every speck of His enormous love. No matter how much He loves others, He cannot possibly love anyone else more than He loves you. And although it’s hard for our minds to fathom, God loves you as much as He loves Jesus (John 17:23). Now that’s affirmation!” -- p. 147-148
 

18. Which is NOT true?
a. Women are far better than men at sensing, understanding, and predicting the behavior of others. They can read men better than men can read men.
b. Women are far better than men at nurturing children, and children prefer their mother’s comfort over their father’s by 14 to 1.
c. In light of our culture’s changing roles for men and women, most men are comfortable with dominant tendencies in a female mate.
d. Although a woman is designed to desire a man who pursues her and leads her, she also needs a man who values and honors her.

Chapter 10: His Brain -- Provision; Her Brain -- Security (p. 157-171)
19. Which is FALSE?
a. Marital dissatisfaction does not depend upon who makes more money, the husband or the wife.
b. Women divorce men who are not ambitious and do not work steadily at good jobs.
c. A husband rarely feels good when his wife supports him financially.
d. The Bible condemns men who do not provide for their families.

20. What change did Dr. Larimore make that increased Barb’s emotional security?
a. He cut back on his work hours to spend more time with his family.
b. He increased his work hours in order to provide a better living for his family.
c. He started doing more household chores.
d. He became a better listener.

Chapter 11: His Brain -- Respect; Her Brain -- Love (p. 173-184)
21. Who said this: “A woman’s need for affection is probably her deepest emotional need.”
a. Michael Gurian
b. Shaunti Feldhahn
c. Willard F. Harley, Ph.D.
d. Stasi Eldredge

22. Which Bible verse best summarizes this chapter?
a. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.” (Philippians 2:3)
b. “Be devoted to one another.” (Ephesians 5:21)
c. “Each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)
d. “Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” (Colossians 3:19)

23. From Genesis 2:18, what is the least accurate translation of the Hebrew phrase ezer neged, “helper suitable”?
a. the subordinate role of helper
b. the rescuer of man, one who saves him from the bondage of loneliness
c. indispensable companion
d. a power equal to man

Chapter 13: Cherish, Honor, Nurture by God’s Design (p. 197-205)
24. I Peter 3:7 says, “You husbands show her honor.” The Greek word for “honor” means to “value”, “attach high value”, and “treasure”. Psychological studies show that when a person makes a decision to honor and value something, his or her feelings will start changing with
a. six days
b. six weeks
c. six months
d. one year

25. I Peter 3:7 also says, “Husbands,…be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner.” The Greek word usually translated “weaker” is difficult to render in English. What is the author’s best description of what “weaker” refers to?
a. It means that women are more susceptible to temptation, as Eve was.
b. It refers to the tendency for women to be misled by others because women see more of the good in others and not the bad.
c. It means that wives are like fragile, priceless works of art, bone china, or exquisite jewelry.
d. It means that women usually have less stamina and physical perseverance than men.