Chapter 1: Emotional Intensity and Your Child's Feelings
1. Which question would NOT help parents recognize worrisome behaviors in
a. Asking our child why he behaves the way he does.
b. Is our child unable to differentiate between situations,
responses, causes, and effects?
c. Does our child respond to events in an extreme way?
d. Does our child reach a high level of intensity very quickly?
e. Does our child have trouble prioritizing what is important, and is he
overwhelmed by choices?
f. Does our child take a long time to return to a calm state after an
2. Our feelings come from our
3. What thought could have helped Jane have better
feelings about getting her two young children ready for school?
a. "Here we go again. This will be one of those days when Jackie won't
get ready for school by herself."
b. "Why can't Jackie just do this herself like she did yesterday?"
c. "Jackie is taking too much time to get ready. She is doing this on
d. "Okay, Jackie needs some help getting ready for school. If I help her,
she will get ready faster."
Chapter 2: Effective
Parenting (p. 31-62)
4. Which is NOT true?
a. Reminding yourself that your child is doing the best he can helps you
feel less angry, less disappointed, and less frustrated with your child.
b. Accepting that your child needs to do better means that he is not doing
his best right now.
c. Your child wants to do better because he seeks your approval and would
rather live in a house that is free of tension and anger.
d. When a parent tells his child that he cannot have a friend over for the
weekend, and the child responds by saying, "You never let me have any fun,"
a wise parent will refrain from arguing, quietly allowing the child to have
this different point of view.
5. Effective parents will describe a child's behavior in a non-evaluative
manner, and then describe the consequence of that behavior. Which is NOT an
example of this?
a. "You asked your mother after I already had told you No. You are so
b. "I appreciate it when you take out the garbage."
c. "You have really worked hard on this school project. I hope you are proud
of this accomplishment."
d. "Thank you for cleaning up your room."
6. Which is NOT true about validation of your child's
a. Sometimes validation can just be sitting quietly and listening to
b. Acknowledging that your child is angry right now could increase the
chances of him being angry next time because he will think you are endorsing
his bad behavior.
c. Validation can help de-escalate emotional situations.
d. Validation helps a parent to remain calm in the face of a child's
Chapter 3: Understanding What Your Child is Telling You
7. Your child comes home from a friend's house and responds in an angry
manner when you ask if she had a good time. When you ask her what's wrong,
she yells, "Nothing!" Then she goes to her room.
At this point, as her parent, what should you NOT do?
a. Let he be alone for awhile in her room. Don't take her silence
b. Don't rush to her door to ask her again what's wrong.
c. When she calms down, tell her you would be glad to listen to her if
something is bothering her.
d. If she denies being upset, give her a consequence for lying to you.
8. In the story of ten year old Ricki coming home quiet and brooding from
school, all of the following responses by her mother, Penny, are effective
a. Penny notices right away that something is bothering Ricki. Penny
remains calm and makes no demands on Ricki.
b. Penny tells Ricki she is not a loser and reminds Ricki of several of her
c. Penny tells Ricki she has right to feel sad about not being invited to
d. Ricki yells and slams her bedroom door shut. Penny waits for awhile, then
tells Ricki she will listen whenever Ricki wants to talk about what is
9. If your child tells you that she hates her best friend,
which would be an effective parental response?
a. Tell your child that hatred is a sin.
b. Give her a consequence for her bad attitude.
c. Acknowledge her feelings, knowing
that they are probably temporary.
d. Talk with her about ways she can change her bad feelings.
10. Which of the following would help children express their feelings?
a. Parents who acknowledged and accepted their child's feelings, not
reacted against them.
b. Parents who selectively share their own feelings with their child, taking
care not to overwhelm
c. Parents who attend to their children just as much when they are calm and
pleasantly engaged as when they are having intense reactions.
d. All of the above.
Chapter 4: Responding When Your Child is Overwhelmed by Emotions (p. 85-97)
11. Which of the following would NOT decrease the possibility of an
emotional outburst in a child?
a. Having dinner at about the same time every night.
b. Having bedtime around the same time each night.
c. As a consequence for breaking a rule, always taking away something the
d. Having your child complete a chore by a certain time that day.
e. Having a place for your child to go and be quiet and undisturbed.
f. Providing activities that are soothing and enjoyable such as listening to
music, drawing or painting, exercising, or taking a warm bath.
12. Which would NOT help a parent remain calm when a child
is having an emotional outburst?
a. The parent remembering that when he was a child, he never would have
treated his own parents this way.
b. The parent speaking slowly to the child in a soft tone and low voice.
c. The parent taking slow, deep breaths.
d. The parent thinking to himself, "I can help my child calm down if I
Chapter 5: Teaching Your
Child to Manage Feelings (p. 99-111)
13. Which is NOT true?
a. Children can learn self-awareness by alternately tensing and relaxing
their body, or by breathing in and out, and then describing these sensations
in their own words.
b. Children can learn to make connections between experiences and feelings,
such as, "When someone yells at me, I feel angry," or "When I do well on a
test in school, I feel proud."
c. When a child's emotions are escalating, one of the best calming
activities at that moment is for the child to talk about what is bothering
him. Talking will almost always help him feel better right away.
d. The best time to use a calming activity is before the child escalates her
14. How do parents find out what is an effective calming
activity for their child?
a. Ask your child what he likes to do when he feels upset.
b. Observe what your child does to calm down when he is upset.
c. Make a chart with your child of what helps him calm down when he is only
a little upset, and what helps him calm down when he is really upset.
d. All of the above.
Chapter 6: Behavioral Principles and Intense Behaviors (p.
15. If a child whines because he wants a cookie, and the parent gives
him the cookie,
a. the child will most likely whine the next time he wants something.
b. the child will most likely stop whining right after he gets the cookie.
c. both a. and b.
16. A reinforcer is a consequence that increases the
probability that a behavior will occur again. A reinforcer can be something
that a child likes, or taking away something that a child dislikes. For a
reinforcer to be effective, all of the following are true EXCEPT:
a. The reinforcer should occur immediately after the desired behavior so
the child links the desired behavior to the reinforcer.
b. Parents should choose a different reinforcer if the one they are using is
c. Intermittent reinforcement is highly effective because the child never
knows when his behavior will result in a reward, so he continues the
behavior in the likelihood he will eventually be rewarded.
d. Parents should view reinforcers as "bribes" since their children are not
old enough to be intrinsically motivated.
17. Parents have a child who is often overwhelmed in social situations and
tends to grab things from other children. The parents decide to help their
child learn more effective social behaviors. They tell their child that if
he plays with other children for 15 minutes without grabbing anything out of
their hands, then he will get a special snack. After their child learns to
do this, they then tell him if he does not grab anything for 30 minutes,
then he will be given money to save to buy a favorite toy. And when the
child can sit with other children and not grab anything at all from them, he
will be allowed to have a friend come over for the weekend to play.
The parents are using the behavioral strategy of
c. natural consequences.
d. a. and b.
18. Which is NOT true?
a. Unlimited punishment should be
used for really bad behaviors, like hitting another child and causing him to
b. Although both reinforcement and punishment are effective parenting
strategies, reinforcing a desired behavior is more effective than punishing
an undesirable behavior. For example, it is more effective to reinforce your
child when he is being calm than punishing him for yelling and cursing.
c. It is effective for parents to reinforce an opposite, desirable behavior.
For example, parents who have a child who tends to yell may reward their
child when he uses a softer voice.
d. When using time-out, it is effective to
allow the child to come out after he becomes calm, not before he becomes
19. Which is an effective way to get a child to do his homework?
a. Write up a contract with your child in which he will be allowed to do
something he enjoys doing only after his homework has been completed.
b. A child is doing his homework and manipulates his parents to sit with him
by throwing a tantrum when they get up, and then working quietly on his
homework when they sit back down with him. The parents decide to reward him
for each hour he works on his homework without his parents sitting with him.
c. The child is not required to have perfect behavior, but is required to
make progress toward better behavior. It is effective for parents to give
prompts to a child who begins to misbehave, and then reinforce the child if
he calms down within two minutes of receiving the prompt. It is also
effective for the parents to give reinforcement for whole days without an
d. All of the above.
Chapter 7: Maintaining Expectations, Limits, and Routines (p. 135-144)
20. Which is NOT true?
a. Parents should not have a specific bedtime for young children. They
will fall asleep on their own.
b. Parents will be more successful in getting their children to bed if they
give them a calming activity beforehand and not rush their child.
c. If requiring a chore to be done right away results in a negative
response, parents can give their child a time when the chore has to be done,
and they can remind her that she cannot do other activities until that chore
d. If a routine is a struggle for a child to complete, parents can reward
their child on those days when she completes the routine without causing
21. When a child does not immediately comply with parental expectations,
parents can avoid power struggles by
a. calmly giving prompts about their expectations.
b. not standing over their child waiting
for compliance, but walking away and asking her to complete the expectation
within a short time period.
c. calmly reminding their child of the reward she will earn when the
expectations are met.
d. All of the above.
Chapter 8: Decreasing Tantrums, Aggression, and Other Problem Behaviors (p.
22. Jason is an 8-year-old boy who has explosive temper tantrums. His
parents practiced all the right responses when he was younger: (1) Not
giving in to his demands. (2) Calmly ignoring the tantrums. (3) Reinforcing
positive behaviors, such as making polite requests, and developing a
contract for tantrum-free days. (4) Distracting him or trying to calm him
before the tantrums escalated.
However, even after all these appropriate parental responses, Jason
continues to explode and sometimes resorts to breaking things and hitting or
pushing his siblings.
Which of the following additional parental responses would NOT be helpful?
a. Jason's parents decide to spend individual, uninterrupted time with
him and his siblings (fifteen minutes) at least five times a week.
b. His parents acknowledge and validate Jason's feelings and his siblings'
feelings, even when the children are misbehaving.
c. His parents make a contract with Jason that for each hour he is
tantrum-free he receives a sticker, and after earning so many stickers he
receives a reward.
d. Fifteen minutes into his tantrum, Jason's parents threaten to lock him in
his room with no dinner if he continues with his outburst.
e. After each outburst, Jason must engage in a calming activity.
f. Jason's parents reassure him that they love him even though they don't
like his tantrums.
23. Which is NOT true?
a. Children threaten to hurt themselves because they want attention.
b. Children cut themselves because they want to alleviate emotional pain.
c. If your child hurts another child while they are playing together, it is
appropriate for you to calmly remove your child from the play area.
d. If you are at the playground with your child, and he refuses to come to
you after several prompts, it may be effective to tell him he will not
return to this playground if he does not come right now.
Chapter 9: School-Related Difficulties (p. 157-170)
24. What can parents do with a child who refuses to go to school?
a. They can ask their child if there is anyone bothering them at school.
b. They can meet with their child's teacher(s) and find out if the teacher
has any helpful observations.
c. They can develop a contract and reinforce their child on the days she
goes to school without incident.
d. All of the above.
Chapter 10: The Impact of Intense Emotions on the Entire Family (p. 173-185)
25. Which is NOT true?
a. A child who has intense emotions
should never be dismissed from doing chores whenever that child's siblings
are also doing chores.
b. Parents should work hard to spend individual time with each of their
c. When other siblings are jealous of a child who has intense emotions,
parents should accept and understand their feelings.
d. Parents should recognize the uniqueness of each of their children.