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The Game Plan -- The Men's 30-Day Strategy for Attaining Sexual Integrity
by Joe Dallas
2005 (W Publishing Group: Nashville, TN) [224 pages] All rights reserved.
[Answer 14 of 20 questions correctly to receive
12 hours of continuing education credit]

Introduction (p. ix-xxvi)
1. Which of the following characteristics did the author discover about men who struggle with sexual sin?
a. Their introduction to sexual sin came early in life.
b. They did not have a genuine faith in Christ.
c. Their faith in Christ put an end to their sexual problems.
d. They essentially stopped experiencing shame for their failures.

Day 1 -- Recruitment: Getting Back into the Game (p. 3-11)
2. James T. Draper, Jr. the president of Lifeway Christian Resources, said that "it appears the sin of choice among Christians today is ___."
a. materialism (greed)
b. indifference (apathy)
c. pornography
d. hypocrisy

Day 3 -- Crisis: Truth Hurts (p. 15-22)
3. The author believes that King David's downfall began with
a. his sin of adultery with Bathsheba (II Samuel 11-12).
b. his direct violation of God's Law to take multiple wives, 20 years earlier than his sin of adultery (Deut 17:17).
c. his refusal to confess his sin of adultery and his attempts to cover it up (II Samuel 11-12).
d. pride that was fueled by his great military accomplishments (I Chronicles 18:11)

Day 5 -- Separation: Making the Final Cut (p. 26-31)
4. Why do men want to return to sinful behavior they have rejected?
a. Because they really don't know God.
b. Because they really don't believe God loves them.
c. Because they become irrational.
d. Because the memory of that behavior is always recorded in their brains.

Day 6 -- Action Plan for Separation (p. 32-40)
5. If a Christian man is very knowledgeable about computers, what is the best way to separate himself from Internet pornography?
a. obtain an Internet filter that blocks out porn.
b. have an on-line accountability system with a godly friend who can view his on-line history.
c. get a new Internet Service Provider (ISP) that excludes porn.
d. give his wife the password to his computer so she can monitor his usage.

Day 7 -- Structure: Your Daily Meds (p. 43-58)
6. A counselor told the author that the author kept falling back into sexual sin because
a. he underestimated the power of sexual sin and overestimated his own integrity.
b. he had a change of heart but failed to change his lifestyle.
c. he did not have daily routines that would impact his heart for good.
d. all of the above.

7. In order to listen to God, it is essential to
a. listen to godly people.
b. read the Bible daily.
c. discern God through creation.
d. trust a still, small voice within you.

8. The author defines sexual sobriety as
a. abstaining from the use of pornography or any sex apart from marriage.
b. abstaining from any form of sex with one's self or with partners other than the spouse.
c. not having any immoral thoughts when looking at another person or picture.
d. abstaining from masturbation, pre-marital sex, and adultery.

Day 9 -- Alignment: Teammates and Allies (p. 59-67)
9. What is the practical value of having an accountability partner?
a. Someone who will directly ask me every week if I've maintained sexual sobriety in any particular area of weakness.
b. Someone who will cheer you on after you've failed and who will help you find ways to prevent failure next time.
c. Someone who greatly strengthens your resistance to temptation because you know before you sin you will have to report your response to him.
d. all of the above.

Day 11 -- Confession and Restitution (p. 72-81)
10. Of the following, which is the most appropriate confession after a wife catches her husband looking at pornography?
a. "I'm sorry for what I did. It was the first time I've ever done that."
b. "I'm really sorry for what I did. I know that all sin is grievous to God, both yours and mine."
c. "I'm very sorry for what I did because it demeans and degrades you. Here is my plan for avoiding such behavior in the future."
d. "I'm sorry for what I did. I never meant to hurt you. But knowing the reality of sexual temptation, I can't promise you it will never happen again."

Day 13 -- The Arena and the Opposition (p. 89-102)
11. Which is TRUE regarding "triggers"?
a. It is possible to reducing triggers until I achieve a temptation-free life.
b. If I am tempted by a trigger, then I have done something wrong.
c. It is my responsibility to reduce my triggers when and where I can and to resist the ones that get in my way.
d. It is wrong to be momentarily aroused by a trigger that you unintentionally encounter.

12. The author says that Satan, as the accuser of the brethren (Revelation 12:10), "speaks to our weaknesses in ways that make us think it isn't him speaking at all." What is the most effective thing to do at the moment we are experiencing despair, worthlessness, hopelessness, or condemnation?
a. Quote Scripture such as Romans 8:1 "There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."
b. Perform a charitable act for someone. This counteracts self-pity.
c. Call a close friend for encouragement.
d. Tell yourself to "snap out of it." There are millions less fortunate people in the world.

Day 15 -- The Wounded Player (p. 105-114)
13. Forgiveness means
a. confronting the offender with their offense.
b. obtaining a confession of wrongdoing from the offender.
c. giving up the right to punish someone who hurt you.
d. becoming friends with the (former) offender.

Day 17 -- Understanding Temptation (p. 119-127)
14. Which is TRUE about sexual temptation?
a. Sexual purity is the absence of sexual arousal.
b. After a man initially notices an attractive woman, the best way for him to fight sexual temptation is not to take a second look.
c. A husband can lust after his own wife.
d. If a man stays sexually pure long enough and doesn't act out, then his capacity to lust disappears.

Author's Definitions

       sexual arousal = a normal, God-given desire to connect, both
                                 emotionally and physically.
       sexual lust = to covet or strongly desire someone I'm not married to.
       acting out = to physically express what I am internally experiencing.
 

 

The Process of Sexual Temptation

       STIMULATION --  You first notice an attractive woman.
                                   This is natural and unavoidable.
       CONSIDERATION -- Should I take another look?
                                       Your judgment is faltering.
       ENTERTAINMENT -- The second look or fantasy or flirtation.
                                       Imagination takes over.
       INDULGENCE -- The third look. Obsession. I have to have her.
                                 Nothing else matters.

       "But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed
        by his own lust. Then when his lust has conceived, it gives birth
        to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death."
       (James 1:14,15)

       "For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law,
        but under grace." (Romans 6:14)

       "No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man;
        and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond
        what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of
        escape, so that you will be able to endure it." 

 

15. Which is NOT part of the reality check?
a. saying your name out loud.
b. saying the names of the people important to you out loud.
c. saying out loud your job, ministry, and most important responsibilities.
d. saying out loud your specific sins for the past month.

Day 21 -- Entitlement (p. 150-160)
16. In this chapter, the sin of entitlement is the rejection of God's authority over our bodies. The author exhorts us to replace a mindset of entitlement and indulgence with a mindset of
a. servanthood.
b. chastisement.
c. simplicity.
d. wisdom.

Day 23 -- Boundaries (p. 163-173)
17. Which is NOT true about confronting someone else's behavior?
a. You should first examine your own behavior before confronting another.
b. A husband who is recovering from sexual sin has no right to confront his wife.
c. A spouse who continually uses obscenities should be confronted.
d. Persistent dishonesty, gossip, and criticism should be confronted.

              "My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you
        may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the
        Father, Jesus Christ the righteous." (I John 2:1)
 

Day 25 -- In Case of Relapse (p. 179-189)
18. Which of the following men is LEAST LIKELY to relapse?
a. A man who does not neglect working his program of daily prayer, Scripture reading, weekly accountability, and maintenance routine.
b. A Christian man who believes in "triumphalism", that having enough faith can cure him of any problem.
c. a husband who doesn't tell his wife about his struggles so he won't disappoint her.
d. a husband who stops acting out without ever knowing why he did.

The Five Primary Goals of "The Game Plan"

      1. To abstain from the sexual sin that has dominated you.
      2. To repair damaged relationships and make restitution.
      3. To maintain a permanent structure of discipline and accountability.
          (Daily prayer, Scripture study, commitment to sexual sobriety, and 30 reasons to do so.
           Weekly accountability to a group and partner)
      4. To successfully manage sexual temptations when they arise.
      5. To correct unhealthy ways of relating.
 

Day 27 -- Your Broader Purpose (p. 192-199)
19. Who said the following statement?
"One of the most attractive features of the early Christian communities was their radical sexual ethic and their deep commitment to family values. These things drew many people to them who were disillusioned by the promiscuity of what proved to be a declining culture."
a. Corrie Ten Boom
b. Chuck Colson
c. St. Augustine
d. Bishop William Fry

Day 29 -- Conversion and Epiphany (p. 202-210)
20. On the morning that Jesus rose from the dead, Mary Magdalene, Salome, and Christ's mother went to the tomb to anoint His body. An angel told them, 'But go, tell His disciples and Peter, He is going ahead of you to Galilee" (Mark 16:7). Why did the angel, under orders from God, single out Peter?
a. because Peter was often plagued with doubt.
b. because if Peter could be convinced, the rest of the disciples would be convinced also.
c. because God wanted to comfort Peter after Peter, overestimating his loyalty, had denied Jesus three times.
d. because Jesus was closer to Peter than the other eleven apostles.